Hook up of Life!

 

Ok now, am going to tell you guys this amazing thing that happened to me after having had series of hook up experiences with plenty bobos…

You see it was about one year… one year after my boyfriend of two years broke up with me and left me destabilized. Through about four months after the break up, I had to undergo what I call the "iREACT" stages of break up (Initial REsponse, ACceptance, and the Transformation and healing)… more on this in a later post. The transformation and healing stage got me going all spiritual about my relationship life. I had to pray and fast for wisdom in choosing a life partner. I got counsel from older and mature friends. One in particular advised that I have three lists: one for the mistakes I made in my previous relationship, another for the minimum requirements for me to start dating again and the third for the minimum qualities/requirements any prospective partner MUST have before I would consider dating him. I had taken all the advice and armed with these, I knew exactly what I wanted and would be able to recognise it when the time comes.

I knew I needed to meet new guys. I knew I needed to make more male friends, but I didn’t know how. I had never been a keen social network person….was never into Facebooking and Tweeting like most of my friends, but because I needed to meet guys, I began opening my mind to expanding my social network. I needed correct hook ups and dates (harmless dates o!). With my crazy work schedule, the best way to meet people without having to worry that they would turn out to be nose-digging serial heart breakers was through hook ups from trusted friends.

Thank God for good friends and their connections loll! Trusted friends and colleagues at work volunteered to hook me up and I kept jumping at the offers like a rat would on cheese (or does that happen only in cartoons? loll). I was a little doubtful and scared of what to expect on such blind dates and it almost got me forming uninterested and acting conceited, but am glad I didn't sha, because I learnt plenty plenty… my friends, men are a bunch of characters! I tell you.

After having "hooked-up" and dated series of guys over the months, I began to get seriously frustrated with finding my dream man. It seemed the whole world was filled with sooo sooo wrong men. One of the relationships particularly got me disappointed in men… the guy turned out to be something else after a few weeks of dating. He couldn’t even pretend for too long. Imagine! Anyway, I will give you the gist in subsequent posts.

 

Now back to the matter......

Titi had been one of my closest friends back from Unilag days. We often gisted each other about our relationships and shared great gossip times together loll. She decided to help me with another hook up and it was with her cousin! She buzzed the guy and set up the hook up by giving him my number (of course I no fit dey call man for the first meet up naa kilode! Na so I desperate reach ni loll.) Although Titi tried keeping much details about the guy from me, she gave the basic info and said she’ll prefer I discover the rest myself. We are both from the same tribe, but he worked and lived in Port-Harcourt. “Okkkk ooooo! I hear you o,” I had told her. I had to force myself to be patient and wait for the guy’s call. So the dude finally made the first call two days after Titi gave him my number. He had a calming voice and was quite funny. He spoke intelligently too. It was too good to be true. Az in…. "na so I go just jam correct set dude…just like that? Na lie joor…filmtrick toh badt,”, I kept thinking to myself with mixed feelings. He called everyday and we spent  hours and hours on the phone. After about two weeks of constant communication I asked if he had a Blackberry phone (BB). I just had to see this guy’s physical qualities before falling for him abeg…. I no won fall finish only to realise that he has frog eyes and rat ears or something loll. Fortunately, he had a BB, but before adding him to contacts I quickly changed my dp (profile picture) to one of the least attractive of my photos. Loll…I don’t even know why I did that sef hehehe.

So we were connected on BBM and gbam! He turned out okay….in fact more than okay sef. He was handsome but with big ears which I could overlook loll. He looked settled, and I allowed myself to relax a bit….but I still had my fears since we all know picture especially BB DPs can be deceptive. Photoshop had caused many babes and guys heartbreaks on hook ups over the years naa.

We got talking on phone… pinging on constantly during the day and speaking at lengths at the night. We talked about everything...likes, dislikes, hobbies, past relationships, preferred number of kids, best kissing position, secrets, fears, and all your church mind can imagine :-D

Three months later, one would have thought the “initial gra gra" (I call it I.G.G i.e. initial excitement) would have reduced yeah, but nope! We were absolutely smitten with each other. I felt I knew all about him. It was kinda weird, especially as I was yet to see him.

He finally got some time off work and flew in to Lagos to meet me. I was super excited and nervous ehnn… I even fell ill and took a day off work (lmao it wasn’t a small something). We were to have dinner at a posh Chinese restaurant in Victoria Island. I had fixed my new soon to be "one-nation" Brazilian hair and the 30minutes I spent on my make up was well worth it. I however did not want to be overtly dressed, rather wanted to look perfect but like I did not try too hard. So my make up was minimal but perfect (check!), my hair was well made and perfect (check!), my gown was new, cute and chic (check! check!) and I avoided heels and wore my lovely new sandal (check! check! check!). I made sure my sister dropped me off at the restaurant so as to maintain the ‘fresh out of AC’ look. Trust me, as I entered that restaurant, hmmmnn I could bet my BP was at a critical level.

 
I remember details of what he wore from head to toe. A well-ironed purple fitted shirt which happen to be my favourite colour, tucked into good fitted jeans and nice black belt rocked on nice black loafers, with a matching and cute black fedora hat which I toyed with and wore at some point during the date. His mushy smiles made me blush uncontrollably all through the date. He was good looking (*am love struck* hehehe) even more so physically and that did not help my blushing state much.

We had a great dinner and the date was the deal-sealer for me. My friends, that night as I slept with a smile on my face and a sweet feeling in my heart; I knew that it was the beginning of something right and a romance of a lifetime.

This story is supposed to be the conclusion of this blog since it was the final successful hook-up I had (leading to a successful relationship) after series of hook up experiences which I will be sharing in my subsequent posts. I am making this my first story because I want to let you know that hook ups do work, and it may still work for you even if you’ve had some hook-up mishaps in the past. So, before picking and treating each of my bad hook-up experiences I thought it would be great to share the story of success first.

In addition, here is my grand list of Lore's Lessons Learnt:

So tell me, do you believe that a hook up can lead to a lasting relationship and even marriage?